Bethany Grey Lynn - my mother cared for me for 10 days. She knew I had been 'allocated'. What that meant was at some stage she would come from the work room to feed me and I would be gone. Time and day unknown. The cruelty of this still takes my breath away.
I agree. I think there is a deep level of wilful ignorance, propped up by networked gaslighting. I certainly found that when I was sending out Official Information Requests to multiple government departments while doing my PhD research.
The weird dynamics of the Franken-family! Another variation of this maladaptive behaviour is when the male adopter is the reason there is infertility - the cause of both his own cuckolding, and the quiet, bitter, seething martyrdom of his wife.
Really looking forward to digging in to this but also want to say - a different perspective - she did it for him - he wanted a son - she wanted not to adopt / they “settled” on me! And she tried to kill me. Wow is this stuff rich with research material or what??
Bethany Grey Lynn - my mother cared for me for 10 days. She knew I had been 'allocated'. What that meant was at some stage she would come from the work room to feed me and I would be gone. Time and day unknown. The cruelty of this still takes my breath away.
“Allocated.” Yes. What a chillingly-accurate word. Already tagged for someone else. This was haunting language.
In some other situations, this would be called grooming and trafficking. Unless it's in the process of acquiring a child.
Yes. The collective unacknowledged societal guilt is staggering. I wish I could say it was a case of people just not “knowing”.
I agree. I think there is a deep level of wilful ignorance, propped up by networked gaslighting. I certainly found that when I was sending out Official Information Requests to multiple government departments while doing my PhD research.
Thank you for saying adoption is not fate. I’ve always felt that.
The weird dynamics of the Franken-family! Another variation of this maladaptive behaviour is when the male adopter is the reason there is infertility - the cause of both his own cuckolding, and the quiet, bitter, seething martyrdom of his wife.
Really looking forward to digging in to this but also want to say - a different perspective - she did it for him - he wanted a son - she wanted not to adopt / they “settled” on me! And she tried to kill me. Wow is this stuff rich with research material or what??