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Abe Maddison's avatar

It makes me so angry to read these stories of patronising, patriarchal denial. Adoptees deserve so much better. We’ve had so much taken from us, and yet the truth still remains hidden and “protected” from so many. I cannot fathom why. Thank you, Barbara, for your relentless dedication to the pursuit of the truth, and your incomparably brilliant writing.

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Alison Ingram's avatar

What is most glaring to me is the (NZ), 'Ministry for CHILDREN'.

Similarly in AUS, adoption records are held by state 'Child Protective Services' (WA) for example.

Why are our records held by govt departments that see people in their 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s and 80s, as if perpetual children? Who is being "protected" and who "excluded" by an archaic legal construct which denies our adulthood/citizenship?

If our parents are deceased why aren't our records automatically made available to us - transferred to us, upon request - completely un-redacted?

Because...we would then see "other parties" who are also protected by adoption law. We would be able to analyse the content and take legal action against the state and/or religious institutions, whose employees were in the business of covert human trafficking.

We would see the illegal actions of those who manipulated our mothers - the "almoners", the doctors, the hospital/mother-baby-home staff and the many adopters who were "given" babies despite evidence of their inadequacies.

FYI Barb, I am currently preparing to apply to CPS in WA for my paternal (deceased) sister's Adoption file. But, I first have to sign a legal document so that a search can be done by authorities in NSW - for my "putative" father's name in my adoption file.

I can only apply for my sister's WA file IF my "putative" father's name appears somewhere in my NSW file.

The required document makes a legal declaration that I, 'will not contact him or any of his family'. But, I cannot swear that I will not contact my deceased father - who's name I already know - nor any of his family - my other (deceased) sister and brother in Greece. Additionally and adding to the absurdity, his grandchildren in WA are NOT (legally) his family, because their mother was adopted.

I have known my father's identity since 1988 (my mother told me his name) and I have since proven his paternity via Ancestry DNA with one of my WA sister's sons. But to get my sister's Adoption file (she was taken from our then single father when she was 5.5yrs of age) I must PROVE to CPS WA that my sister and I have the same father.

I have his DC - because he died in 1986.

So, I'm not going to sign the document - it is not only inadequate but nonsensical. I have ALL four of my parents DC's - my sister's DC - my mother's medical records upon which my father's name is written on several pages and I am going to apply without signing the blatantly inappropriate legal document - declaring that I will not contact my deceased father.

It's a joke and oddly enough, I now find it FUNNY that we know so much more than all of the "Departments of Secrets" (crediting Sue S for the term).

Adoption did not remove the stigma of our "illegitimacy". Adoption has made us forever "bastards" - forever fatherless - forever, "children" by the law and forever "suspect" - like bastards of the 14th and 15th centuries - we are forever "outside the law".

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